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I’d have to say it’s the acme of hospitality for a hotel to include a vase full of canes for the convenience of its kinky guests, as this hotel that Heron and Abel visited in Japan does:



Bethie and I actually once stayed in a brand new Hampton Inn that had a room vase full of [...]

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College newspaper sex columns have long provided rich fodder for sex blogging, but too often (especially in the early days when campus sex columnists tended to spray burbling prose in a “Squeee! I’m writing about sex like a grownup!” sort of tone) they’ve tended to instigate mockery rather than respect. However, when “Dr. Strokes” addresses the extremely tricky subject of the rape fantasies so many women enjoy, the result is just about the calmest and sanest such discussion I’ve ever seen. Here’s an excerpt from Anatomy of A Rape Fantasy:

What are some of the reasons that people want to pretend rape?

1. Guilt avoidance. It sucks, but we still live in a society where people, especially women, are made to feel guilty about wanting sex. Let me quote Nancy Friday, from her classic 1973 book of women’s fantasies:

“The most popular guilt-avoiding device was the so-called rape fantasy… it simply had to be understood that what went on was against the woman’s will. Saying she was ‘raped’ was the most expedient way of getting past the big No to sex that had been imprinted on her mind since early childhood.”

2. Being irresistible. It can be fun to imagine that you’re so attractive that nobody can resist the urge to touch you, and that they need to have sex with you so much that they’re just going to take it. Let me repeat: it can be fun to imagine when you are in a highly sexually aroused state and completely in control of who is touching you and how. Not so much otherwise.

3. Fear can heighten excitement. This is a known fact—fear gets our adrenaline up, our heart pumping, our pupils dilate, even our genitals aroused. Think of a rape fantasy as like a roller coaster—a controlled fear experience which you can get off of, and not you being thrown around out of control at 150 mph.

4. The more positive side of guilt avoidance is “pressure to perform” avoidance. In my violent rape fantasy, nobody really expects me to “perform” or to be “good” or to really do anything but what my instincts tell me to do. And it’s fun to imagine a situation where we’re expected to just run on instincts. (This is another gradation for me between “BDSM” and “rape” fantasies—in my BDSM fantasy, I have less pressure to perform because I have less ability to perform, but in my rape fantasy, I become a purely instinctual creature.)

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Recently, Publisher's Weekly put out their list of what they considered to be the top 10 books put out in 2009. Let's take a look at their list, shall we?

( The list, if you will. )

Did you notice a theme? No, I'm not griping about the lack of genre fiction there, I promise. I would have been shocked if anything I've read actually showed up on that list. But take a look at the authors' names. See it now?

Author Courtney Milan did, and she came up with what might be the sexiest response to PW's list ever written. Smart, insightful, and eloquent, this is the type of blog post I'd like to marry someday.

For something like 35 years, Don Herron has been giving the Hammett Tour of San Francisco. I took this tour at the request of Borderlands Books owner Alan Beatts, who was hosting a big signing in conjunction with San Jose's 2009 World Fantasy Convention and wanted to make sure none of his VIP writers fell into a manhole -- or if they did, that it was quickly hushed up.

Principally focused on The Maltese Falcon, this walking tour covers the areas of downtown in which for a time Hammett lived and Sam Spade did stuff. Herron adds some occasional Continental Op facts and some anecdotes covering his other esoteric genre knowledge -- about San Francisco writer Fritz Leiber and occasional San Francisco visitor Charles Willeford, who once ran into Herron on a Hammett tour and told him the story of how he wrote one of his crime novels in the Powell Street Hotel. Turns out he had written the book somewhere else; he was either confused or pulling Herron's leg.

 

In the pic above right, Hammett Tour, host Don Herron points out an interesting feature of a building. Clockwise from left, Steven Erikson, Graham Joyce, Ian Cameron Esslemont, Bill Willingham, Hammett Tour host Don Herron, Mark Van Name, Jenny Faries.

SPOILER ALERT

A bit later, as you'll see from this photo, Don Herron is caught red-handed with the murder weapon; standing in the foreground is Graham Joyce, who's just been plugged 'right through the pump.'

I am sorry for getting to this so late...anyway, there's a couple of things going on this month, so...

Nov 12: Cirque Mechanics Birdhouse Factory at the Capitol Center for the Arts in Concord, NH

Nov 13, Nov 27: the return of the Salem Vintage Dances

(also note there are additional dance events listed on the Vintage Dance Events Calendar)

That's what I have so far for this month. Did I miss anything? Mention it in the comments!

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As we draw near the end of my three days in the Circlet Press spotlight here, I wanted to talk a little bit about what I have in print, some of what’s upcoming, and what I’m working on now.

First and foremost, please buy the wonderful Circlet anthologies (and not just the ones that have my stories in them. If you are reading this blog, you probably already know what Circlet has available, but just in case...).  Circlet has a wonderfully unique approach to erotica, and our continued patronage of their works will help ensure future marvelous collections!

 

Like a Corset Undone is an anthology of steampunk erotica, including my tale “The Coming Age,” about a sexual visionary and his amazing discovery unveiled at the 1893 Columbian Exposition. Available now.

Like a Mask Removed will be an anthology of sexy superhero stories, including “Lawman.” Coming soon from Circlet.

Like a Sacred Desire – an anthology of stories about erotic divinity – will contain my Krampus romp, “St. Nicholas' Eve.”

From other publishers:

Peep Show, edited by the delightful Rachel Kramer Bussel and published by Cleis, includes my short story “Calendar Girl.” Set in the late 1950s, “Calendar Girl” is about a young woman who discovers the power of exhibitionism. Check out the book trailer here. Available now.

Very soon, I will have a story in the modern pulp magazine Out of the Gutter #6, the sexploitation issue. The story is called “Life Model” and is a bit of a thematic companion to “Calendar Girl.” More hard-boiled than most of my work and huge fun to write.

My story “Timbre,” in Best Women's Erotica 2010, edited by the incomparable Violet Blue.

The e-book anthology Maiden, Mother, Crone, from Drollerie contains my story “Standing Stone,” which manages to be both fantasy and science fiction.

eXtasy Books just published my novella Green Flash, a darkly romantic story about a young woman half in love with death in the midst of a celebration of lively sexuality. Available now.

I have two stories in the wonderful Coming Together anthologies, edited by Alessia Brio. “Making Rain” in Coming Together: Al Fresco and “Under a Moving Star” in Coming Together: Against the Odds. I am especially proud of “Under a Moving Star” and was delighted to donate it to a good cause! Both available now.

Sadly, Virgin/Black Lace books have curtailed future erotica collections, but I’m delighted to have placed a story in one of the later ones. “Understudy” in Love at First Bite is a very different kind of vampire story about a man who is Bela Lugosi’s understudy for the 1929 Broadway production of Dracula. You can read a review of “Understudy” and an excerpt at Vampire Erotica, here. Lust at First Bite is still available.

“The Morning Trade” is a contemporary story of a young woman discovering her secret sexual self in the outstanding collection, Girls on Top, edited by Violet Blue. Available now.

Finally, I have three other books available from eXtasy Books. Inspiration, a story of the erotic power of art set in Renaissance Italy; The Passions of Pearl, an x-rated, satiric fairy tale; and my novel Woman of the Mountain, 2008 Eppie Award winner for Best Erotica.

On the horizon, I have a few more stories that will be appearing in collections in the new year and a short, comic space opera novel that I’m looking for a publisher for. One of the best stories I’ve written is a horror novella (with, surprise! erotic elements) called “Springs” that will be published by Drollerie in 2010, and I have other tales out seeking homes. When I’m not being distracted by irresistible calls for submission, I am working on the sequel to Woman of the Mountain. Called Woman of the Water, it’s going to be considerably darker than its predecessor…

I’ve enjoyed these three days at Circlet and I hope you have found some of what I’ve posted entertaining. I always like to hear from other writers and readers, either through e-mail (muse @ angelacaperton .com - remove spaces) or in the ever-expanding spectrum of social media, Twitter, Facebook, and MySpace. My blog, The Exotic Fair of a Wandering Muse, is by far the best way to keep up with me, my work, and the things I like.

Thank you so very much to Circlet for this opportunity to meet peers and make new friends, and I will see you all soon, in one world or another.

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Wiki:

Objectum sexuality commonly referred to as OS, is a pronounced emotional desire towards particular inanimate objects. Those individuals with this expressed preference may feel strong feelings of arousal, attraction, love, and commitment to certain items or structures of their fixation. For some, sexual or even close emotional relationships with humans are incomprehensible. The term objectum-sexuality (Ger. objektsexualität) was coined in the 1970s by Eija-Riitta Eklöf Berliner-Mauer, a woman from Liden, Sweden who was "married" to the Berlin Wall. Objectum-sexual individuals also often believe in animism, or the belief that objects have souls, intelligence, feelings, and are able to communicate.

In Feb 2008, Erika Eiffel, an objectum-sexual from San Francisco, California founded OS Internationale, an educational website and community for those identifying or studying the condition to love objects. The website generated a flood of international media interest. Eiffel, whose name derives from her marriage to the Eiffel Tower in 2007, has been featured as a spokesperson in variety of international articles, radio talk shows, and television programs.

My last excerpt is from “St. Nicholas Eve”, which will appear in the upcoming Circlet anthology Like a Sacred Desire.  

The story takes place on December 5, a couple of weeks into the holiday season. Our heroine is Holly, a disgruntled, seasonal, department store elf. On her bus trip home, she meets another of Santa’s helpers and they debark at the same stop. One thing leads to another and we come to this scene:

My buddy Matt is a movie-to-TV script consultant. He's responsible for writing the non-profanity lines that get dubbed over swear words when they put movies on television. You'd think that in his spare time, he'd either curse up a storm all the time, or maybe he'd constantly be all monkey-fighting this and Monday-to-Friday that.

Neither is true. Mostly Matt talks in a really high-pitched, almost squeaky voice. He swears occasionally but not often.

But Matt and I don't talk about our jobs often. What we like to do is get together on weekends in the mall, and open up a table booth, and tell passersby what utensils would most make them happy.

"You, sir, would be happiest with chopsticks made from finished pine wood," we might say, "and I know it might take a while to learn, but trust us, it'll make you happiest."

Or "you, ma'am, would benefit from a simple set of silver flatware. Antique. I thinka few places in this mall might have them, but I don't know which. Good luck."

Today, somehow, everyone we've met would benefit from a titanium spork. Matt and I are stumped. What does this mean?

“St. Nicholas’ Eve” plays with the old European legend of the Krampus, the dark, devilish spirit that accompanies Santa Claus, handing out coal and “punishing” wicked children with birch switches.  There is something deliciously sexual about the Krampus, and it was not a stretch to play with  BDSM themes in “St. Nicholas’ Eve.” 

 

With that in mind, for my last contest, tell me what mythical or legendary figure do you find sexy, and why?  I’ll pick a winner tomorrow!

 

The prize – Winner’s choice of one of the following:

 

Like a Corset Undone (contains “The Coming Age”)(eBook)

Woman of the Mountain eBook or Print

Print copy of Lust at First Bite (contains my story “Understudy”)

Maiden, Mother, Crone (contains my story “Standing Stone”)(eBook)

One of my eBooks from eXtasy Books (use Search by Author to pull up my titles)

Besides “The Coming Age” and “Lawman,” the other story of mine that Circlet will be publishing is “St. Nicholas Eve,” a lighthearted Christmas tale of pagan deities and public birching.

The persistence of pagan beliefs is something that always fascinates me and Christmas, of course, has more layers of hidden culture than Schliemann’s Troy. “St. Nicholas Eve” deals with a manifestation of one of Santa Claus’ dark companions, known by many names including Black Peter, Perchten, or Krampus. These little shadows of pre-Christian tradition really know how to put switches in a stocking or how to apply them to tender flesh! Besides appearing in the anthology Like a Sacred Desire, “St. Nicholas’ Eve” will also be available as a free-for-one-day offering on the Circlet website on or about December 22^nd.  As Christmas approaches, check Circlet’s website for more details.

 Of all the stories I’ve sold, my favorite one that deals with pagan survivals is “Standing Stone” in the Drollerie Press anthology Maiden, Mother Crone.  “Standing Stone” is an explicitly erotic tale that spans three eras in a valley in northern Europe, each story about a different aspect of a primal goddess whose truth is timeless and merciless. The story includes elements of fantasy, historical romance, and science fiction, and – surprise! – probably falls well outside of all three genres. Drollerie published an extensive excerpt here (click the "excerpt" button near the bottom).

Although there was a certain amount of deliberate co-opting of pagan sites and customs by Christian missionaries, I honestly think that the transformation of Christmas (and the shrine of Lourdes for that matter) speaks more to deep human desires than to religious manipulation. Both “Standing Stone” and “St. Nicholas Eve” are my little efforts to talk about those desires. 

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I mentioned the Erotica Readers and Writers Association earlier. Available on their website is a hot little e-volume called A Slip of the Lip. It’s edited by my friend and colleague Remittance Girl  and features 21 short, short stories, vignettes, and verses, all about kisses. I have a story in it called “Last Kiss” that is, perhaps, a ghost story.

You can get a free copy of A Slip of the Lip here.

And I hear RG may be working on a sequel!