I just like big tits and big asses.

It's not a fetish, really....

Wow. I could have written this myself. Well, aside from the specific examples, of course. I even went through a period of doubting myself and worrying about fetishizing fatness because of the range of my attractions. Ultimately I used the same protest you did. It satisfied me, as my main concern was whether I was seeing these women as women or as only objects to fulfill my fetish.

I'm always interested to hear other people's thoughts an experiences on this front, especially men, since, as you say, they primarily get it from the "but you can't like THAT!!" angle. I have a few posts on the topic from my point of view:

http://aroraborealis.livejournal.com/tag/fat

A friend of mine says, when explaining her sexual preferences, "I fall in love with the PERSON, not the gender"; so of course she is routinely labled "bisexual" as a result. (When accused of being a fence-sitter, she says "My playground has NO fences").

At any rate, I should think the same attitude could be applied when accused of being a fetishist; that whole "I desire the PERSON, not the body-type".

Let's face it, we all have preferences; I prefer a steak over a hamburger, but that doesn't mean I don't occasionally want a hamburger. My preferred body-type in men is scrawny to the point of bruising my thighs on their hip-bones (no doubt due to seeing my obese father walk around the house naked even into my teenage years), but I'll be attacted to anyone I have chemistry with & that seems to transcend body-type.

Just my 2 cents :-)

Soo if you're a fat fetishist because you occasionally fuck fat women, are you also a skinny fetishist because you also occasionally fuck skinny women?

As always, you awe and inspire me, not only with your fiction, but with your beliefs, ideas and expression of these.

As I 'bigger girl', I salute you.

BTW I think alot of men suffer from some shame about attraction to a girl who's 'fat' thinking they'll be thought less of by others around them. I 'pity the fool' who cannot look past society's expectations in this way.

It's almost like a homophibic reaction in some - to be the quickest to put down someone of a particular type rather than be seen to sympathise with or like them...

My hero!

someotherguy says: "I don't know, what's the world coming to when there are guys who actually have a clue?" :-)

I loathe this idea that those who like fat women do so because they have some kind of fetish. It often seems to me that society treats fat people, especially women, almost as if they're completely devoid of emotions, incapable of being hurt by the comments made about them. And being seen as the object of a fetish isn't a nice feeling (admittedly it bothers me less in recent years). In the past I've had the friends of the person I was with comment on my size right in front of me, as if I wasn't worth the respect they would grant a slimmer person.

Personally I don't have a 'type', and I don't understand why people shut themselves off from possibilities by feeling the need to label their desires.

Write a post about this footnote, please.

Found this site through an unrelated link at boingboing.

As a man who fancies big girls, I've been reading this thread (and others with tag *fat*) with some interest, not all of it prurient.

My most immediate thought is that when spankaesthetic writes that "being seen as the object of a fetish isn't a nice feeling" I wonder what world she (yes?) lives in.

Get over it, is what I say; we're all objectified. Me and you and Linda Lou. Fat people are objectified, skinny people are objectified, people with beards or piercings or those who wear hats.

So now that you know it, what're you gonna do about it? The most sensible thing is to welcome into your world those with a fetish type that includes subset you.

If the idea is to feel good about your body, why are you going to shut out those people most receptive to it? If as a big girl, you're going to take note of the unfair treatment given yourself vs. the skinny ones, then shouldn't you consider that this means skinny girls are being fetishized as well?

I found the recent nude of Jennifer Anniston on the cover of Whatever It Was magazine something close to disgusting. She looks like a baby, not even finished developing, my God. Can't be normal, right? Still, notice the many healthy ways in which Ms. Aniston has harvested the way SHE has been fetishized.

Fortunately for my mental health, my longtime girlfriend is down with all of this: if I had to pretend that the large size and round shape of her rear end was not of great interest to me, I'd be repressing myself, probably to the point of a sickness that would express itself elsewhere in our relationship.

We are not ascetic monks (at least most of us aren't), so to pretend that the grossly physical is not a large component of our sexual makeup is naive. The "Cartesian duality" is spot-on, except you must respect both sides.